Random Thoughts on Modesty

In the Christian blogging community at large - of which I consider myself a part - modesty is a hot-button topic around this time of year. While it feels like a tired topic, it's still important to talk about in this day and age.

So, in this post, I want to outline random thoughts I have on modesty and beliefs I hold regarding modesty based on my faith. I don't expect to agree with everyone on everything - nor do I expect everyone to agree with me. I have thoughts, and I want to lay them out on the proverbial table, plain and simple. Also, my aim is not to judge anyone else. I'm just stating what I believe and where I stand.

• Modesty is not about you. It's always been and always will be a matter of respecting those around you. This does include the opposite gender - and believe me, it does help them a lot - but this also includes workplace and school environments, as well as family functions. It truly is a matter of respect.
• At the same time, modesty is about you. When you cover up a bit more, it's apparent to those around you that you respect yourself as well as others. Notice a key word here brought over from the previous point: respect.
• In some cultures, modesty is a requirement. For example, I went to Italy a couple of summers ago to visit the Sistine Chapel, and if your shoulders weren't covered, they handed you a paper poncho to wear. See, respect is a pretty big factor here. If you're traveling to a country with such rules, do your research beforehand so you know what to pack.
• And all this being said, modesty can be just plain practical sometimes. When it's cold, you ought to cover up. When you're taking care of kids or moving around in general, you generally don't want a short skirt. Never underestimate the power of a basic cardigan, or leggings under a dress, tunic, or skirt.
• I've also always believed that you can be modest in action, too, not just appearance. You can be a gentle and quiet person, or you can have a loud voice, but you don't have to curse or slander others with it. Be different. Be kind. Have courage and be kind (to quote the newest Cinderella movie).
• You can be modest all you want, but if someone around you attempts to harass, harm, or otherwise disrespect you, that is on them and you are not at fault. People are going to make bad decisions, and no amount of clothing can change their actions. Protect yourself, use common sense, ask for help when needed, and be aware of your surroundings at all times.
• What other people wear and their reactions are outside of your control. You only have control over your example and what you wear, and that can make a world of a difference.
• Finally, covering up gives you the chance to let your personality shine through. Creative pieces can be a great conversation starter (i.e. "Where'd you get that Atari shirt?"). And have fun with it! Pinterest is an EXCELLENT resource for creative outfit ideas (and who doesn't love Pinterest?).